If they can’t get positive attention, narcissists will turn to negative attention, such as being feared or hated. They don’t care what you think of them, but they do want to be recognized.
Narcissists regard humans as extensions of themselves. They exist to assist people in achieving their goals. Followers of narcissists are duped in the same way that narcissists are duped (I’m a follower, but I know it’s what I need to do to live in peace with NPD). You’re only here to feed the narcissist’s need for self-importance.
There are narcissists who brag about their successes. There’s a covert narcissist who appears to be your friend while secretly seeking emotional support from you.
Narcissists move at a rapid pace in relationships. It’s not uncommon to hear “I love you” and/or be bombarded with love songs/texts/memes a few weeks after meeting someone. They hurry into sex/intimacy to expedite the relationship. They deceive their victims into believing in them before they realize there is a problem. This, I believe, is also why they make great lovers. Sex is usually the “hook” in unhealthy relationships.
Any psychiatrist or expert in this field will be unable to provide an accurate answer because people with NPD have personality traits combined with manipulation techniques that make it extremely difficult and confusing for a normal person to understand; sometimes everything makes sense, and other times nothing at all.
In the early stages of a relationship, excessive flattery is a significant red flag. Then, because narcissists are masters at projection, they’ll project their own concerns onto you, accusing you of being the source of their problems. They will make you believe that you are the one who is being unfaithful and uncommitted in your relationship. And you, as the victim, will undoubtedly believe it.