This one is a little trickier since people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are famously difficult to spot. It’s possible that even expert psychologists who haven’t had direct experience (as a victim) get misled. One of the world’s best rehabilitation experts was himself a professional psychologist when he fell foul of a love narcissistic relationship – and had his world turned upside down with it. So, how can one tell if they’re dealing with a narcopath or not?
I’d grown to know someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder very well after 5 years of marriage.
A person with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (male or female) has traits that regularly act in ways that defy all notions of normalcy. They regularly break the rules, lie, break agreements, degrade, humiliate, and engage in inappropriate, immature, remorseless, and utterly inhuman behavior. To the outside world, they appear to be really lovely, charming, courteous, kind, loving, caring, helpful, and supportive.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist is emotionally draining and can have significant mental health repercussions. You start to hold yourself accountable for things that aren’t your fault. You learn that your lover has contradicted what they told you the week before.
The narcissist will do anything to demonstrate his or her identity. Narcissists behave predictably, and if you’ve read any of the other stories on Quora, you could assume one of the authors dated your monster! Yes, I did! However, this is not the case… Narcissists have a regular pattern of conduct. This can work in your advantage if you’re trying to avoid becoming involved with one of these animals, but if you do end up getting involved, understanding what you’re up against can help you disentangle yourself sooner rather than later.